My board is getting very interesting. Here is my situation (advice appreciated) Please .. feel free to let me know if you feel I have too many mods / co-admins, etc. We've got a good sense of community going on for the most part, I feel. For the third year now ... about 15+ members and their spouses have either flown or driven out of state to a 'bbq' hosted by different members on the site. close to 800 members (say only about 200 active) * 25 forums * 45 - 60 new threads a day * 600 - 700 posts a day * 2 co-admins and 8 mods * Our board is divided into two sections - One topic .. off topic * 1 co-admin with four mods moderate each section. A few things ... A couple of my Mods & 1 co-admin are really close friends - with each other and other members on the site. I'm a stickler about my mods/co-admins NOT discussing what happens in the support team forum with other members on the site. here is what I have in our support team forum for Mod guidelines: +++++++++++++++++++++++ Confidentiality It is important that support team members have a place to discuss matters frankly without worrying about confidentiality. I expect you to keep all discussions in this forum confidential. If you feel you cannot stick to this, notify me or another admin so that we can remove your support team access. If we discover that you have breached confidentiality, we will remove you as support team member. It is completely unacceptable to use any information that you have gained from this forum or elsewhere against a member.[/COLOR] +++++++++++++++++++++++ So, in my opinion - this is not happening. Recently, a moderator that is close friends with quite a few regular users - I have a hunch is sharing information about other users status, etc. (recently a lady was banned). Although, not headline news - I don't feel it was my mods place to make it known to the other users. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? I'm all for making friends and building community, but I wonder if you can really moderate without being biased towards YOUR friends? We've had some confidential info slip out (last blow out) - I just can't pin point who leaked the info. This is the same Moderator (her best friend is the co-admin) that I had a public blow out with last year on the site - and it was u g l y. About 20 or so followers of these two said 'if you want us to come back .. this has to happen' - this mod emailed me their check list. Last year I was told by a few cliche' posters 'You may RUN and PAY for the site, but co-admin and mod .. breathe life into it''. So, I worked very hard on trying to build a relationship with these ladies, and I'm still trying. from one admin to another .. suggestions? Am I setting myself up for more trouble? Thank you in advance for your replies! p.s .. after reading within the forum, I realize the process I used to appoint co-admins and mods - sucked! I used the 'highest post count'. It's more difficult to taketh away after one 'haveth' for so long.